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Why is it that we are constantly haunted by both the past and the future, even though they both have no power over the present moment we are experiencing? One has passed, is gone, the other has yet to happen. Yet we barely ever seem to exist purely in the moment, except for the really special moments, like when we are in love or we are experiencing a magnificent sunset. Those moments keep us in the present because in order to fully experience their magic, we must be in the here an now. Aren’t those moments some of the happiest and magical memories you’ve ever had? Wouldn’t you like to experience more? Here’s what I think might help you to spend more time in the moment.

Do the following technique to remain grounded in the present, leave those past and future problems where they belong.

The Present Fix

1. While in the midst of daily life, just stop, and ask yourself, “What can I see now?” A blue sky, children playing in the park, a passing bus. Look around you and see what you notice.
2. Next, ask yourself, “What can I feel?” Walk around and touch things, focus on how they feel, soft, smooth and warm. Drink in the feelings that each object stirs within you and dwell on the feelings.
3. Finally, ask yourself what is happening right now, in this moment.

Whenever you find yourself dwelling on past problems or thinking about the uncertainty of the future, pull your mind back to the present with this “present fix” technique.

Immerse yourself wholly in the present moment and put all your attention and focus on what you are doing right now. One of the reasons that time seems to fly the older we get is because we tend to have more to worry about, and as a result, sadly, we spend more and more time dwelling on past failures and regrets as well as fearing what the future might bring. We rarely spend much time in the present, and when one spends more time in the present, time seems to slow and your appreciation for things grows and you are filled with a feeling of being, of peace. Think about it, as children the summers seem to last an eternity, why is that? The reason is that we have no fear of the future, nor any regret of our past. We live purely in the moment, and that’s why everything is so magical when we are children. Don’t allow past and future to dilute these magical moments in the present. Turn off your phone sometimes, switch on some music, do the above technique. Allow time to slow, and just enjoy the beauty of being alive.

Sometime in your career you will be asked to give a talk. It may be in a small meeting of peers and coworkers or it may be in front of a large audience of strangers.

Here are six things to be aware of when making a presentation or giving a speech.

1. Grammar – Use correct grammar. Duh! Of course we need to use correct grammar but you would be surprised at how many times I’ve heard people use verb tenses that don’t agree with the subject of the sentence. Write out your speech beforehand and read it aloud a few times. This will help you catch most of the mistakes privately. Ask a roommate or friend to listen to the speech and give you feedback or note any grammatical errors.

2. Filler Words - Unnecessary words that do not help convey your point can be distracting. Avoid the use of “uh, ah, you know, like, and I mean.” In order to avoid run-on sentences, insert a one-second pause between sentences instead of using “and” or “so” to connect two or more sentences. Take a short breath between longer sentences, and allow your audience to take in what you have said. Articulate clearly and pronounce words correctly. Before you take the stage practice saying any difficult words you plan to use.

3. Body Language - By this, I am referring to unintentional cues you give such as looking at your notes, not making eye contact, slumped shoulders, hands in pockets jingling money, or slouching on the lectern. Practicing in front of a mirror will help you discover your own quirky movements.

4. Gestures – These are intentional movements you use to make a point or illustrate the importance of a word. Make your gestures large enough to be seen by the person sitting in the back of the room. Step away from the lectern when using the lower part of your body; otherwise your movement will not be seen.

5. Vocal Variety - Avoid monotone and jazz up your presentation by varying your tone (emphasis or emotion), pitch (high or low voice), and rate (fast or slow). All these help keep an audience interested in what you are saying.

6. Your Topic- Your focus should be on your audience. An interesting topic is important, but should be relevant to your listener’s needs. Prepare ahead of time. Write key points on small 3×5 note cards to remind you of what is next. Only use them if necessary.

7. Props - Not every presentation will have or need props. However, visual aids and paper handouts make a talk more interesting, help the audience follow along and give them notes, email addresses or website URLs to refer to later.

I know this is a lot to remember-especially for a beginner. You may want to start by giving your presentation at home by focusing on only one aspect at a time. Go through your presentation the first time listening for grammar usage and filler words, then go through it again noticing body language and gestures; on the third time through pay attention to your voice. By the time you have gone through your speech the fourth time, you will feel at ease, know your material well and be able to manage props effectively.

More often, there can be some differences for you to choose a present for the older bride than the younger one. As people of different ages will have different needs. For younger bride, the necessaries for the house may be essential; however, the older one may not consider them to be as important as the younger one believe to be. Their personal interests will be the most essential elements you need to think about when you are planning to send the older bride presents.

If the bride likes to taste various kinds of chocolate, you may buy some chocolate of special taste for her. Or, you may make her to be the member of the chocolate of the month club which will send a pound of delicious chocolate to its members. And these chocolate are of different taste. Some of the tastes are unable to get in the stores because they are all handcrafted of natural ingredients. There are the memberships of different periods for you to choose.

If you want to give the bride a big surprise, you may choose to print the photos of the bride on a canvas. You should do the preparation beforehand so that you will have enough time to finish all the work before the wedding. As the process of preparing for the wedding is memorable and meaningful for the bride, you may take some photos for her and then select the better ones to be printed on a large canvas. The bride will be very happy to receive this special present.

Generally speaking, you may choose or make your presents according to the needs of the bride. More often, you can know the needs of the bride very clearly if you know her very well or when you are of the same age as here. However, if you do not know her real needs, you may ask your friends who are of the same age as the bride. And then, select the proper present for her.